Replacing your unconscious UM with a pause or breath is the fastest way to shift your hormonal and perceived confidence. The first step is just to hear them. Instead of beating yourself up for hearing them, have an UM party. Celebrate hearing them! Hearing them is the first step to starting to replace them with a pause.

Does unspoken anxiety make you over-think and over-prepare to hide how much you’re struggling? Learn how to trust your innate ability to communicate and stop over-working to be heard.

Do you want to know the single most important things you can do in video meetings? No, it’s not finding the right words with perfect precision. The most important thing you can do to shift how you’re perceived on video is adjust your camera angle.

Getting feedback that you need more confidence or more executive presence only makes you less confident and less present. Here are my tips to reclaim your voice and speak with ease.

Do you feel like you ramble or repeat yourself while speaking off-the-cuff? Have people told you that you speak fast but telling yourself to “slow down” is just distracting? Speaking fast can take away your confidence and authority (and actually lead to people interrupting you more).

If you’re holding your breath while speaking, it can make you lose your train of thought and feed anxiety. Here are my tips for finding flow when speaking.

When preparing to speak spontaneously, most people either avoid and wing it or over-prepare and memorize. Here’s my process for finding middle ground and preparing when you can’t prepare.

What are you prioritizing when speaking? Are you focusing on what you want to say? Or are you over-prioritizing other people’s perceptions of you?

Do you find that you give way too much detail when describing some thing off-the-cuff? Ever feel like you are rambling or not ending with strength or clarity?

Trusting myself—and helping others trust themselves—has been my life’s work. As we close out this unexpected year, I hope you trust yourself—and your ability to handle anything unexpected that comes your way.

On-camera meetings aren’t going away, and they can be particularly nerve-wracking for people with anxiety. This article offers five questions to ask yourself to help quell on-camera meeting stress

Check out my interview with Hat Not Hate, an anti-bullying platform, where I talk about safety, bodily autonomy and gender identity.