Does your voice disappear in certain rooms?
You know your stuff. You're confident with your team. But around senior leaders — or when the stakes are high — everything you prepared just... disappears.
The unpredictability is the worst part
“After this work, I’m more in sync with myself. I feel more confident and capable, like I can talk to anyone.” — Creative Entrepreneur
I'm Lee Bonvissuto. I built this work because I needed it.
I kept meeting brilliant people who were considering leaving careers they loved because of speaking anxiety.
They weren't lacking confidence. They were lacking focus.
This isn't a communication problem. It's a focus issue.
And focus is a muscle you can strengthen.
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Before an important meeting, do you...
Over-prepare obsessively — then still feel unprepared when it matters?
Dread it for days, replaying every possible way it could go wrong?
Worry you'll be "found out" — even though you know your stuff?
And in the moment: Does your mind go blank? Your chest tighten? Your train of thought just... disappears?
You're not alone. And there's nothing wrong with you.
This isn't a communication problem.
You communicate perfectly when you're comfortable — with your team, in familiar settings, one-on-one.
When your voice disappears, it's not because you don't know what to say.
It's because your attention splits: half trying to remember what you want to say, half monitoring "do I sound confident? do they think I know my stuff?"
That split is what causes the brain fog, the lost train of thought, the racing heart, the shortness of breath.
These are focus issues. And focus is a muscle you can strengthen.
(Yes, even if you learn differently — it's about building your own framework, not following someone else's script.)
Why is this happening?
If you're here, you're probably mid-career with deep expertise. You're empathetic. Detail-oriented. Conscientious. These are strengths — they make you excellent at your work.
But in hierarchical workplaces, they can work against you:
Your empathy picks up every micro-signal → you absorb the anxiety in the room
Your detail-orientation makes you over-prepare → you can't access your expertise under pressure
Your conscientiousness makes you deferential → you shrink around authority
This isn't impostor syndrome.
You're responding rationally to systems that reward dominance over depth.
The solution isn't to fix yourself. It's to build capacity to access who you already are — even when the room makes you want to disappear.
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